Safe Sex Tips For Lesbian Couples

Posted on: 19 July 2016

Just like heterosexual couples, lesbians are not immune to STIs (sexually transmitted infections), and that's why it's really important to attend your local sexual health clinic for regular testing.  Here are some tips on how to enjoy safe sex with your partner, together with some signs to look out for that could indicate that a trip to the clinic is in order.

Safe sex tips for lesbian couples

Remember that any form of one-on-one sexual activity could pass on an STI, especially if one or both of you are menstruating.

  • Always wash sex toys thoroughly with hypoallergenic soap and clean water after every love-making session, and dry them with a clean towel.  
  • Use condoms with sex toys and if you're having both vaginal and anal sex, use a fresh condom for each.  
  • Don't have oral sex if either party has cold sores on the mouth or lips, or has ulcers or cuts inside the mouth.  
  • It's a good idea to use a dental dam if you have oral sex, vaginally or anally.  A dental dam is a square of very thin latex that can be used to act as a protective barrier between your mouth and your partner's genitals during oral sex.  
  • It is possible to transmit some STIs on your hands or fingers so always wash your hands thoroughly with antibacterial soap before and after you've had sex.   
  • Your vagina is self-cleaning.  Therefore it's best not to use soap inside or outside, as this could irritate or inflame the delicate skin, paving the way for an STI.  
  • If you are planning to indulge in anal or vaginal fisting, make sure that you wear latex gloves and use lots of lubricant.  This reduces the likelihood of cuts or splits to the skin and offers protection should the worst occur.

Warning signs to look out for

  • Itching around the vagina, soreness on penetration, a burning feeling when you pee, a thick, yellow discharge with an unpleasant fishy aroma.  All these symptoms could indicate that you have thrush or trichomoniasis.  
  • Painful ulcers or blisters around your genitals or mouth.  This could mean that you have herpes.  
  • Small lumpy growths in the genital area and around the anus.  These growths could be genital warts.  
  • The appearance of a rash on your body, painless ulcers around your genitals, and swollen glands.  These symptoms could indicate that you have syphilis, a very serious STI that requires immediate medical treatment.

If you or your partner notices any of the above symptoms, you should seek medical advice immediately, either from your GP or from your local sexual health clinic.

It's important to note here that not all serious STIs present with any symptoms at all.  For example chlamydia and gonorrhoea often go unnoticed, although their effects could be serious, especially if you wanted to have children in the future.

In conclusion

Sex is an important and fun aspect of any relationship.  Make sure that you and your partner enjoy safe sex by following the tips given above, and be sure to attend your local sexual health clinic like Travellers Medical Services for regular check-ups.